Dating white men vs black men
Safe to say, I was meeting and messing with the wrong types of men and must have been looking in the wrong places.
Perhaps the black men I would have preferred dating were not interested, already taken, or in their own interracial relationships, but the ones I was dealing with were making the dating game more tough than it should have been.
After dating more of these men I noticed a trend: All of my relationships with white men involved partners who took me out on actual dates, openly confessed their commitments to me, and tossed around the idea of marriage.
I am well aware that there are intellectuals of every race; however, the black men I met wanted to discuss nothing more than sports and intimacy.While I might have enjoyed their company, I knew better than to stick around with a stagnant man for too long, and I continued my search knowing that lowering my standards just because a guy looked good or because he was fun was not going to be an option for me. In the end, I’ve been blessed to find a man who is all the things I wanted and would have hoped for, and we share the same goals for the future. But I can say that my relationships with white men taught me to never settle for less than I deserved and enabled me to find my Mr.Right by not being comfortable with mediocre “dates,” and just being a girlfriend forever.On the rare occasion that I met a black man that treated me the way I was accustomed to and exhibited some of the characteristics I was looking for, I noticed his hesitation in discussing marriage although it was a topic that came up in every interracial relationship I had.All of their parents were still married and they were expected to marry someone…someday.