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Interesting men are out in the world doing interesting things, not waiting patiently for you to appear in their lives.So, the secret is to do those things that you love, knowing that the men you will meet there at a minimum like doing what you do. Failing that direct approach, here are a few other ideas for finding these mysterious older men.Having people to share time with and be interested in you can help you get back to being the person that you really want to be. I of course have to put my two cents in and offer the woman’s perspective on this post.Regarding #1, “Develop your divorce story,” I think it is very very important. AND, if you keep telling people all the details, YOU won’t heal, either.Dating After Divorce by Jason Price, LFMT In my therapy practice I work with a lot of divorcing men who are trying to adjust to life after their divorce.One of the common themes that I encounter is that men want the companionship of someone else, but are scared of the process of dating.It often feels daunting, there is uncertainty about how/where to start, and then add to it how damaged he may feel from being divorced, many men avoid the process all together.
Whether it is the decision to stay together or divorce, dealing with extramarital affairs or other areas of conflict, he has had success helping couples identify the underlying problems in their relationship and develop a healthy life together.
I can’t tell you the number of guys I talk to who when asked why they got divorced roll their eyes and then just start complaining about what a huge bit** their ex is. Jason is right that you need a “story.” Not a lie, just a polite couple of sentences that basically let people know you are moving on, that you aren’t playing the victim.
I also want to comment on #4, “Take it slow,” because I think Jason is dead on with this one.
Even if it was a horrible process and divorce wasn’t the desired outcome, the positive look can be something like “I put my all into the marriage, and even though this relationship didn’t work out, I know that I can be a good partner to someone”, or “we had many good years together, but as time went on we grew apart”.
When you do start to date, you’ll feel more comfortable about your situation and be able to share with your date a story that is palpable. Too many men rely on their married friends for advice.