Using body language in dating
It's an extension of preening and it's astonishingly accurate.
If a guy pulls up or adjusts his socks in your presence, it's an almost 100 percent sign he's interested and trying to look his best. What I mean is he'll stand with all his muscles pulled tight, to show his body off to best advantage.
For some men, this might mean a subtle tie adjustment along with a silent prayer that you'll notice the flash of movement.
Others turn into Bippo the Clown and become so loud and boisterous, they're practically juggling and doing handstands.
If you smoke, you'll take more drags on your cigarette. You start touching your own mouth more because your lips are ultra sensitive and it feels good.
Plus, it plants the idea in the other person's mind that it could be a good idea to kiss you.
He'll also stand directly in front of you to show full attention and lean forward to get closer.
Some experts call it "visual voyaging" — his eyes take a little cruise around your body, stopping momentarily at the prettiest ports.
Legend has it that men make the first move, then plead, cajole, wine, dine and basically bribe (via chocolates, flowers and dinner dates) women into their bachelor pads to either a) have their wicked way or b) get down on one knee.
Women — sweet, passive, delicate little flowers that we are — start out strong by defying his attentions, until sheer persistence breaks down our resistance and we agree to...a sherry.
Meanwhile, we fill our days by reading romance novels and peering from behind closed curtains, on the watch for knights on big white stallions.
Women have always made the first move and orchestrated the pace, flow and direction of romantic relationships.
Masters of intuition and emotional manipulation, adept at body language, able to gauge the emotional temperature of a room quicker than our nipples stiffen in a breeze, you can bet on it that if he's on his way over, armed with courage and a pickup line, you were the one who lured him.